In my office, I often hear clients say, “I’ll try it.” I say, “No, you will do and not try.” When we say try, we open ourselves up for an escape route. We give ourselves an out. As long as we have a choice, we are not doomed. We need to make decisions in our life to become a better you. Decisions are progress.
So many times in my counseling office, I will hear people who have destructive family members say to me, “If I don’t reach out to them and they die, I will regret not trying to make amends.” People want to give bad people a pass if they are sick and dying. I have never heard anyone regret not having a destructive person in his/her life. However, these are the things you will regret.
Do you remember singing telegrams? I had a boyfriend who had just moved to Chicago and I was still back in South Bend, IN. It was Valentine’s Day. I wanted something unique. Looking through catalogues and radio ads (no internet back then), I had such a fun scavenger hunt. Love is magical. I stumbled upon a brand new concept, singing telegrams. On Valentine’s Day, I ordered up a singing telegram for my lover. Gift giving is a sweet tradition of Valentine’s Day.
I had a warm and very wise mother-in-law. She was an intuitive genius; her ideas enlightened me. She told me, “Show me a couple who wants a bigger home and I’ll show you a couple in trouble.” As I have aged, I have seen over and over again that idea materialize. A couple purchases a big house to save their marriage. The couple’s new and bigger house didn’t work to save their marriage. A home or a company, why grow?Read More